> It is similar to saying "hey I'd like to have sex with that hot actor". Saying that does not mean you will go rape the actor. It is just a feeling. Feelings d

> It is similar to saying "hey I'd like to have sex with that hot actor". Saying that does not mean you will go rape the actor. It is just a feeling. Feelings don't equate to action. That's why I suggested you think about the implications a few times-- it wasn't the only thing you said in that context. Some random actor isn't within reach of your impulsivity, so there is less of a perceived threat. The equivalent of what you said was "I am having trouble controlling my impulses. Hey I'd like to have sex with [female coworker]." Still not only inappropriate for work, but it changes the tune to one that might have come from the mouth of John Hinckley, Jr. > I agree it could have potentially happened without the stress. Despite that the stress definitely triggered whatever the cause was immediately. That was very clear. The doctors did though claim there were zero problems 2 days previous. Usually miscarriage does not occur past the first trimester when all other signs are good. I don't disagree that the stress was the catalyst, but don't read so much into the doctors' status reports. They're always going to be tempered because they don't want to be stressors themselves. You're latching on to that to continue blaming your boss. Everything could have progressed fine until birth, where physical complications happen, tears occur, sepsis sets in and you lose wife and/or child. Or one/both contracts MRSA after a c-section. Or eclampsia. Or pneumonia. Or goes anaphylactic from dairy in the formula. I've witnessed them all. Thankfully everyone recovered, but it was still harrowing. The risks of pregnancy are always downplayed.