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I don't really know how to put this lightly, but I think if you could find a way to shift your mentality you might find more success. The facts: - you resiste

I don't really know how to put this lightly, but I think if you could find a way to shift your mentality you might find more success. The facts: - you resisted and refused to do many things asked of you by management, OK, but you can't expect that to go over well - you asked to leave instead of dealing with a purely work dispute - you mentioned your mental health and killing someone in the same day - you returned to work and publicly blamed your manager for something incredibly horrific (the death of your child) that they likely didn't even cause (the link between stress and miscarriage is - at best - tenuous [1]) I'm sure you're not a bad person or anything along those lines, I just want to emphasize how a change in approach could likely improve your life. I was curious how you've handled other situations, and I saw in your comment history that you've been fired multiple times. I'd really recommend looking inward and not blaming others for everything. [1] https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/expert-answers/early-miscarriage/faq-20058214 https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-...

nanoscopic 8y ago
I never refused to do anything of me; I carefully following the Amazon principles. I also worked closely with another senior mentor at Amazon. I talked with him weekly for months before and after the events mentioned to make sure I was doing what was asked of me as best as I could. I agree that I cannot directly prove the causation. Both my wife and myself feel this is the cause and I think it is reasonable. There are clear reasons for why people do as they do, and blaming oneself is not the proper solution. My general belief is that care must be taken to understand how to interact with people in a way that they understand, since accurate communication is not an easy task.

nanoscopic 8y ago

I never refused to do anything of me; I carefully following the Amazon principles. I also worked closely with another senior mentor at Amazon. I talked with him weekly for months before and after the events mentioned to make sure I was doing what was asked of me as best as I could. I agree that I cannot directly prove the causation. Both my wife and myself feel this is the cause and I think it is reasonable. There are clear reasons for why people do as they do, and blaming oneself is not the proper solution. My general belief is that care must be taken to understand how to interact with people in a way that they understand, since accurate communication is not an easy task.