I'm sorry to hear about the pain you've received in your marriage. Sometimes seeing counselors individually can help if the dynamic between you is too toxic. Th

I'm sorry to hear about the pain you've received in your marriage. Sometimes seeing counselors individually can help if the dynamic between you is too toxic. That way you can unload and process your feelings without causing further pain to each other. Then, once you've reconnected with yourself you can come together in a more constructive and intentional way to repair if you choose to do so. It's also common for parents to hide their fighting from their kids. Unfortunately, this also hides how they resolve conflict so we have to learn that later in life. Relationships are not about fixing the perfect match that is in alignment with your wants and desires, but about finding someone who will help you grow. It sounds like your partner has introduced you to conflict and conflict resolution which sucks in the moment, but if you can make it through and grow from it will help with your relationship or any future ones you pursue.