> We don't get to see half of what we think we should be able to see of people's lives. Even people we "know". One of the few times in someone's life that you

> We don't get to see half of what we think we should be able to see of people's lives. Even people we "know". One of the few times in someone's life that you get to glimpse many of their facets all in one place is their funeral. Weddings are skipped if someone doesn't want to go to the expense of buying a gift and attending. Same for many other life events. Unless someone makes a conscious effort to bring all their circles of friends together in a series of parties and events, many times these circles stay separate and sometimes these groups are completely unaware of each other. My epiphany that social "platforms" were crap at their claimed mission was w-a-a-a-y back when I realized they were no better at getting my different circles of friends together with me than if I didn't have the platforms in my life and didn't lift a finger to try to consciously bring them together. These days, I tell people from all my friend groups to drop by an all-day party I hold, they'll meet interesting people, and hang out. The social platform works great for coordinating in my use case, but apparently not for really fostering closer connections. At least for me. YMMV.