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The review is worth reading but the conclusion's succinctness struck me: "In other words: If you want self-esteem, earn it."
by brazzledazzle 8y ago
The review is worth reading but the conclusion's succinctness struck me: "In other words: If you want self-esteem, earn it."
- majos 8y agoThere's another half to this advice: if you have clearly improved yourself, you should consciously add on some self-esteem. I say this as someone who was depressed about who I was, affected a lot of (positive, by most standards) change in myself over several years, but didn't catch my self-esteem up for several more. The initial painful spark to improve yourself can be good and is I think underrated today, but nurturing it can hurt you even as it makes you strong.
- matte_black 8y agoBut then what do you do when you have the self-esteem? What comes next?
- brazzledazzle 8y agoHelping other people.
- taneq 8y agoThis is something missing from so much of the "positive self esteem" movement. It seems so phoney trying to make someone happier with themselves without trying to actually address any of their self-criticisms.