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> "Respectfully: wouldn't really believing that make you kind of an asshole?" Don't you think asking such a question is not a terribly subtle way of calling so

• andybak 8y ago
  The emphasis to my eye was on the word "really". tptacek is suggesting that author of the previous post should consider whether they really mean that or if he they have merely taken a stance without thinking it through clearly. Very different both in tone and implication from "You're an asshole for saying that".
  • JackCh 8y ago
    Saying "If you honestly mean that then you're an asshole" is just a round-about way of calling somebody an asshole while providing them with an out; it's a method of insulting people to get them to change their stance. Where I come from, it's considered rude.
  • tptacek 8y ago
    In fact, I wrote it the other way first, and but when I read it on the screen, it looked a lot like I was saying they were an asshole, and so ratcheted it back, since that wasn't what I was trying to say.
    • JackCh 8y ago
      You were saying they were an asshole, in both versions. Trying to be coy about it doesn't change it. I'm not sure why you bothered to be coy about it since you regularly get away with incivility on this site.