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Doesn't this assume that you'll never be emotionally overwhelmed while having to work? Or that it's something you have complete control over?

• DoreenMichele 8y ago
  Some people have low affect. My ex was once moderating a forum and someone praised his ability to remain calm, cool and collected in forum discussions, at which point my ex said something along the lines of "You don't matter enough to me to get a rise out of me." (So much for diplomacy.) The only person I ever saw him get so mad at that he turned red in the face and raised his voice was... me. I was the woman he was sleeping with and with whom he had two kids. No one else could get that much of a reaction out of him. Some people just aren't super emotional. The feelings they do have they tend to guard. Those are a private matter and the world can butt out.
  • jschwartzi 8y ago
    > "You don't matter enough to me to get a rise out of me." I once pulled over to make a quick emergency stop to fix a broken wiper blade in pouring rain. The pullout I used happened to be a bus stop. As I was watching for the bus, a guy waiting there just started unloading at me from 15 feet away. I gave him a glance, then just finished the 60 seconds of work fixing the blade, pulled out, and moved on. But I did not for one second give a shit about him or what he thought. As much as he wanted his concerns to be my problem, they really weren't. They would have been had a bus showed up while I was fixing my stuff, but that didn't happen.