Yes, that's pretty much life. It'd be great if we could provide all the support anyone could need, but we haven't really found a way to do that yet. More cynic

Yes, that's pretty much life. It'd be great if we could provide all the support anyone could need, but we haven't really found a way to do that yet. More cynically/controversially, I wonder where she got the impression that it's normal for people to help her with things just because it would be advantageous to her. I think it's possibly the case that people are more willing to help women than men in general life[0], and if that is less so the case in tech, then it could feel like deliberate exclusion. "When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.", as the saying goes. On the other hand, it very much could be the case that people are treating her worse than others. There's not one "tech", and while I've had a great experience, I'm mostly familiar with the "small dev shop" scene in a small, laid-back, non-US country so I really shouldn't generalise. That said, I'm glad people are going and solving the problems they're facing. Good on them, and I wish them luck! [0]: Whether that's due to attraction, sexist views regarding their competence, gender roles, or something else entirely I wouldn't venture to guess.