Your last paragraph was what I came here to say: I fly a small Cessna 172 and when i first started to fly i was being cleared to solo and the instructor who cle

Your last paragraph was what I came here to say: I fly a small Cessna 172 and when i first started to fly i was being cleared to solo and the instructor who cleared me gave feedback on my landings at the end. His main remark was "You'll start to feel it in your rear soon enough, it comes around the 150-200 hour mark, but in the meanwhile, trust the instruments and your visual indicators". Ironically you're simultaneously taught to always trust the instruments over your inner ear, and generally as much as I do get the buttock feeling now, I would say my primary focus remains on the visuals + instruments.