4 ms·

I talk to my 3 year old while we're waiting for a haircut. Or I'll go for a walk with him, or play. Same as with the 6 year old. I don't understand why some pa

I talk to my 3 year old while we're waiting for a haircut. Or I'll go for a walk with him, or play. Same as with the 6 year old. I don't understand why some parents find electronic gizmos so essential for day to day activities.

laumars 8y ago
Clearly I talk and play with my son as well (its a bit difficult talking someone for a walk when you're waiting in line for something or sat at a restaurant but maybe that's an American / UK cultural thing). I also occasionally fall back to electronic gizmos when my kids get so bored and disruptive that all of the aforementioned fails to keep them entertained. Because, if you really had kids you'd understand just how impossibly hard it can be to ask a 3 year old to have the patience of an adult ;) But thanks for the patronising tone bud. Just because someone admits to playing YouTube to their son once in a while it doesn't mean they don't still spend nearly every waking moment at home interacting with them. Just like how feeding them fries occasionally is completely fine if their usual diet is healthy.
- isostatic 8y ago
  I do really have kids, one 3, one 6, only had to resort to electronic pacifiers on long haul flights, but ymmv, I just don't understand it. The reason I said go for a walk was that's exactly what I did last time we took the kids to get their haircut - asked them how long it would be, they said 15 minutes, so we went for a walk for 10 minutes
  - laumars 8y ago
    > I do really have kids, one 3, one 6, only had to resort to electronic pacifiers on long haul flights, but ymmv, I just don't understand it. Its ironic you make that confession after judging me for saying something similar - particularly when I don't tend to give my kids electronic devices on long journeys instead favouring conversation (like you suggested I should be doing anyway). Which just goes to show that you don't have to understand how other families work, you just have to accept that it does work for them and not pass judgement like you had done. > The reason I said go for a walk was that's exactly what I did last time we took the kids to get their haircut - asked them how long it would be, they said 15 minutes, so we went for a walk for 10 minutes Honestly, I genuinely find it quite rude when people do that as you lose all sense of how many people are before you and when you'd be up next. I'd rather teach my kids to wait patiently than have them think it is ok to leave and rejoin a queue whenever they get board. But as I said, that might be a cultural difference.
    - matte_black 8y ago
      > Honestly, I genuinely find it quite rude when people do that as you lose all sense of how many people are before you and when you'd be up next. This is ridiculous, you can simply go ask how many people are ahead of you if you want to know your place in the queue, which is the proper way to do it.
      - laumars 8y ago
        Never in all my years of going to the barbers have I ever known anyone do what you've just described in the UK; and if it does happen, then it's certainly not custom in any of the towns I have lived in. Sometimes people do disappear when it is extremely busy but when they come back (typically an hour or two later) they expect to join the back of the queue. Literally the only time I've seen anyone leave queue and rejoined it where they left was when they were there with their larger family and one of the kids urgently needed the toilet. And even then I've only seen that happen once in the decades (literally!) I've been frequenting barbers. You can use all of the patronising terms you like to promote your preferred etiquette but if it's not shared with the rest of community then your method simply isn't the "proper way to do it".
        matte_black 8y ago
        How is it any different from calling in to make an appointment for a specific time and then walking in when it’s your time and getting seated immediately? The only difference here is you make the appointment in person.
        laumars 8y ago
        I can't believe I actually have to explain this, but the difference is you're going to a barbers that don't take appointments and expecting them to honour one. If you want that kind of service then you go to a barbers that offer appointments. It's really not a hard concept to grasp but after reading your other comment about how you love to talk confidently about subjects you no nothing about, I'm starting to question if this is one of those subjects. Perhaps you don't even have kids at all and this is just another one of your attempts at trolling which you also described enjoying. In any case, the real crux of the matter isn't what you consider logical but rather what the generally agreed social etiquette is. So you can argue until you're blue in the face but if it's not how barbers currently work then that simply isn't how barbers currently work. Period.

laumars 8y ago

Clearly I talk and play with my son as well (its a bit difficult talking someone for a walk when you're waiting in line for something or sat at a restaurant but maybe that's an American / UK cultural thing). I also occasionally fall back to electronic gizmos when my kids get so bored and disruptive that all of the aforementioned fails to keep them entertained. Because, if you really had kids you'd understand just how impossibly hard it can be to ask a 3 year old to have the patience of an adult ;) But thanks for the patronising tone bud. Just because someone admits to playing YouTube to their son once in a while it doesn't mean they don't still spend nearly every waking moment at home interacting with them. Just like how feeding them fries occasionally is completely fine if their usual diet is healthy.

isostatic 8y ago
I do really have kids, one 3, one 6, only had to resort to electronic pacifiers on long haul flights, but ymmv, I just don't understand it. The reason I said go for a walk was that's exactly what I did last time we took the kids to get their haircut - asked them how long it would be, they said 15 minutes, so we went for a walk for 10 minutes
- laumars 8y ago
  > I do really have kids, one 3, one 6, only had to resort to electronic pacifiers on long haul flights, but ymmv, I just don't understand it. Its ironic you make that confession after judging me for saying something similar - particularly when I don't tend to give my kids electronic devices on long journeys instead favouring conversation (like you suggested I should be doing anyway). Which just goes to show that you don't have to understand how other families work, you just have to accept that it does work for them and not pass judgement like you had done. > The reason I said go for a walk was that's exactly what I did last time we took the kids to get their haircut - asked them how long it would be, they said 15 minutes, so we went for a walk for 10 minutes Honestly, I genuinely find it quite rude when people do that as you lose all sense of how many people are before you and when you'd be up next. I'd rather teach my kids to wait patiently than have them think it is ok to leave and rejoin a queue whenever they get board. But as I said, that might be a cultural difference.
  - matte_black 8y ago
    > Honestly, I genuinely find it quite rude when people do that as you lose all sense of how many people are before you and when you'd be up next. This is ridiculous, you can simply go ask how many people are ahead of you if you want to know your place in the queue, which is the proper way to do it.
    - laumars 8y ago
      Never in all my years of going to the barbers have I ever known anyone do what you've just described in the UK; and if it does happen, then it's certainly not custom in any of the towns I have lived in. Sometimes people do disappear when it is extremely busy but when they come back (typically an hour or two later) they expect to join the back of the queue. Literally the only time I've seen anyone leave queue and rejoined it where they left was when they were there with their larger family and one of the kids urgently needed the toilet. And even then I've only seen that happen once in the decades (literally!) I've been frequenting barbers. You can use all of the patronising terms you like to promote your preferred etiquette but if it's not shared with the rest of community then your method simply isn't the "proper way to do it".
      - matte_black 8y ago
        How is it any different from calling in to make an appointment for a specific time and then walking in when it’s your time and getting seated immediately? The only difference here is you make the appointment in person.
        laumars 8y ago
        I can't believe I actually have to explain this, but the difference is you're going to a barbers that don't take appointments and expecting them to honour one. If you want that kind of service then you go to a barbers that offer appointments. It's really not a hard concept to grasp but after reading your other comment about how you love to talk confidently about subjects you no nothing about, I'm starting to question if this is one of those subjects. Perhaps you don't even have kids at all and this is just another one of your attempts at trolling which you also described enjoying. In any case, the real crux of the matter isn't what you consider logical but rather what the generally agreed social etiquette is. So you can argue until you're blue in the face but if it's not how barbers currently work then that simply isn't how barbers currently work. Period.