Not sure what you're asking; if you're against the idea of government being involved in declaring who is and who isn't married and defining special benefits for

Not sure what you're asking; if you're against the idea of government being involved in declaring who is and who isn't married and defining special benefits for married people, then great, me too. Let's abolish marriage and in the cases of government employees either pay them enough to support a family or have a way to declare dependents, married or not. But we don't live in that world so a marriage license is the way to declare to the government "I have legal dependents now." This is part of the reason why the legality of gay marriage was a big deal. And regardless of what you call it, it's probably a good idea for the well-being of those in the military to pay for their dependents' housing. As a U.S. taxpayer you're pretty much getting a deal by underpaying those in the military who aren't married. It's not a place to go to get rich.