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Some people want to spend money on a big wedding. Everyone is different.

enraged_camel 8y ago
>>Everyone is different. I personally hate it when people use such cliche sayings to justify all kinds of crazy and irrational behaviors. But I guess everyone is different.
- techsupporter 8y ago
  Humans, as a group, are not universally rational actors. Such is life, or is that a cliche? I hope that this being something that engages your hate means that your personal life is otherwise quite good. May it be filled with all of the same and rational behaviours you choose to make.
- coherentpony 8y ago
  But it's not crazy or irrational at all. Two people love each other and want to spend money on a big wedding. What's crazy or irrational about that? Yes, I wouldn't spend money on a big wedding but that's just me. See? I can make the same point without a cliche saying.
  - enraged_camel 8y ago
    Most of the time people who spend big on weddings do so because they are socially programmed to do so. They believe/feel that the bigger the wedding, the more legitimate their love for each other is. Keep in mind that a lot of people can’t realy afford big weddings, but use what little savings they have on them anyway. Basically, the entire extravagant wedding culture is absolutely irrational and crazy. It just doesn’t seem that way because it has been normalized over decades.
    - rosser 8y ago
      "I disagree with/don't understand/don't like $thing" does not imply "$thing is irrational."
    - Latteland 8y ago
      Plus those don't seem to have that much money to spare/waste. They got married early to get the money to spend on the wedding? Have a party someplace that is almost free, cater it yourself.
  - loeg 8y ago
    It helps to acknowledge that big weddings are a marketed product by wedding vendors and adjacent businesses. Just like De Beers popularized diamonds over a similar timeframe, weddings have grown from small family functions 100 years ago to large events (on average), with proportionately increased cost (yes, accounting for inflation).
- watwut 8y ago
  Rational people recognize that real world humans are not rational and have irrational wishes and needs. If you never fill any of your irrational needs, you will grow resentful, angry, frustrated and jealous of other people happiness. Actually apply to stoics and ascetic too, through their irrational needs are sometimes unusual. In any case, dream wedding is not necessary something you cant afford. It is something you dream about.

>>Everyone is different. I personally hate it when people use such cliche sayings to justify all kinds of crazy and irrational behaviors. But I guess everyone is different.

techsupporter 8y ago
Humans, as a group, are not universally rational actors. Such is life, or is that a cliche? I hope that this being something that engages your hate means that your personal life is otherwise quite good. May it be filled with all of the same and rational behaviours you choose to make.
coherentpony 8y ago
But it's not crazy or irrational at all. Two people love each other and want to spend money on a big wedding. What's crazy or irrational about that? Yes, I wouldn't spend money on a big wedding but that's just me. See? I can make the same point without a cliche saying.
- enraged_camel 8y ago
  Most of the time people who spend big on weddings do so because they are socially programmed to do so. They believe/feel that the bigger the wedding, the more legitimate their love for each other is. Keep in mind that a lot of people can’t realy afford big weddings, but use what little savings they have on them anyway. Basically, the entire extravagant wedding culture is absolutely irrational and crazy. It just doesn’t seem that way because it has been normalized over decades.
  - rosser 8y ago
    "I disagree with/don't understand/don't like $thing" does not imply "$thing is irrational."
  - Latteland 8y ago
    Plus those don't seem to have that much money to spare/waste. They got married early to get the money to spend on the wedding? Have a party someplace that is almost free, cater it yourself.
- loeg 8y ago
  It helps to acknowledge that big weddings are a marketed product by wedding vendors and adjacent businesses. Just like De Beers popularized diamonds over a similar timeframe, weddings have grown from small family functions 100 years ago to large events (on average), with proportionately increased cost (yes, accounting for inflation).
watwut 8y ago
Rational people recognize that real world humans are not rational and have irrational wishes and needs. If you never fill any of your irrational needs, you will grow resentful, angry, frustrated and jealous of other people happiness. Actually apply to stoics and ascetic too, through their irrational needs are sometimes unusual. In any case, dream wedding is not necessary something you cant afford. It is something you dream about.