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This has been my experience as well, I knew someone personally that was in an open relationship and her husband became jealous because she was readily able to f

This has been my experience as well, I knew someone personally that was in an open relationship and her husband became jealous because she was readily able to find sexual partners outside of the marriage, while he wasn't really having the same luck. They ended up divorcing.

magduf 8y ago
Yep, this is one of the frequent complaints about the lifestyle. The problem is that, in my view, men are much more accepting of this* (in that, it's easy to find men who are perfectly fine with having a FWB, not necessarily sharing their primary partner) generally than women, who are much more possessive and jealous. I do find it interesting, because women actually stand to benefit more from relationships like this: resource sharing, being able to take extended time away from work for child-raising, having more adults in the house to cooperate on raising children together, etc. Raising kids in a modern dual-income 2-person family is extremely difficult and stressful (and costly, with day care); I honestly don't know how people do it. *edit
LeftTurnSignal 8y ago
The only couple I have seen that's open and it's working for them helps each other find a partner so that neither one goes home alone that night. They're a very unique couple it seems. I've known him for 24 years now and he's always been a bit different, but very open about everything like that. Now I've seen a few open couples that had the exact issue you described. One side gets jealous because the other found someone to bang that night but they didn't / couldn't. It seems like they forget they're in a relationship and leave it up to the partner to fend for themselves.
- magduf 8y ago
  Personally I kinda like the idea of "monogamish" relationships. A couple is mostly monogamous, but once in a while has a fling, or invites a friend for a threesome. Maybe couples would do better to "play together" rather than separately? If one partner is frequently spending the night elsewhere and the other partner is sleeping alone all these times, that seems obviously a recipe for disaster.

magduf 8y ago

Yep, this is one of the frequent complaints about the lifestyle. The problem is that, in my view, men are much more accepting of this* (in that, it's easy to find men who are perfectly fine with having a FWB, not necessarily sharing their primary partner) generally than women, who are much more possessive and jealous. I do find it interesting, because women actually stand to benefit more from relationships like this: resource sharing, being able to take extended time away from work for child-raising, having more adults in the house to cooperate on raising children together, etc. Raising kids in a modern dual-income 2-person family is extremely difficult and stressful (and costly, with day care); I honestly don't know how people do it. *edit

LeftTurnSignal 8y ago

The only couple I have seen that's open and it's working for them helps each other find a partner so that neither one goes home alone that night. They're a very unique couple it seems. I've known him for 24 years now and he's always been a bit different, but very open about everything like that. Now I've seen a few open couples that had the exact issue you described. One side gets jealous because the other found someone to bang that night but they didn't / couldn't. It seems like they forget they're in a relationship and leave it up to the partner to fend for themselves.

magduf 8y ago
Personally I kinda like the idea of "monogamish" relationships. A couple is mostly monogamous, but once in a while has a fling, or invites a friend for a threesome. Maybe couples would do better to "play together" rather than separately? If one partner is frequently spending the night elsewhere and the other partner is sleeping alone all these times, that seems obviously a recipe for disaster.