I feel like the article is pushing a false dichotomy between being a "tough guy" and caring for his children. Why can't I be warm, understanding and available

I feel like the article is pushing a false dichotomy between being a "tough guy" and caring for his children. Why can't I be warm, understanding and available to my children and still be a "tough guy" (with "toxic masculinity") towards strangers, or colleagues, or my team mates in the soccer club? After all, there is a very different level of trust within the family.