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Geez, I could write a book about what the past 12 months taught me. But here's the main points: * Learn when you have to move on, sometimes some things are out

Geez, I could write a book about what the past 12 months taught me. But here's the main points: * Learn when you have to move on, sometimes some things are out of your control and there's nothing you can do about it. * We all have our own story, don't judge people for their vices and flaws unless you know their story (there are exceptions to this rule) * Sometimes you just have to take the jump, quit your job, move overseas, and survive on your credit card until you find a new job. Otherwise in a years time, you'll be in the same shitty place you are now. * Seasonal Affective Disorder is a right bitch, and alcohol is not a cure. * Corollary from the above: You may not feel it sometimes, but people do care for you, despite your head telling you the opposite.

qntty 8y ago
Can you expand on the third point?
- toomanybeersies 8y ago
  It's a bit tongue in cheek, I don't really recommend that everybody moves overseas. But for me, I was in a city that I didn't really like, and a job that I didn't really like. I wasn't going anywhere and I wasn't saving any money. Basically, my life was on hold. I had worked at my job for a year, and had saved a total of zero dollars, my boss was never going to give me a pay rise, and I was feeling like shit at work. I realised that if I stayed where I was, in a years time, I was going to be in exactly the same situation and there weren't a lot of other jobs in my city that would've put me in a better situation. So I decided that I'd quit my job and move to Australia, which for New Zealand citizens is as simple as getting on a plane and flying over (essentially it's visa free). I didn't have much in the way of savings, but I figured I had 3 months of runway if I used my credit card. I found a job within a month, and everything else has fallen in place quite nicely. The main takeaway is that sometimes you need to be able to realise when you're in a situation that you can change, and then do what you need to do to enact that change, even if that means moving way outside your comfort zone.
  - grassclone 8y ago
    This is a really inspiring. It reminds me of a buddy who moved out here from the east coast to live here in the Bay with essentially nothing. He racked up a bunch of credit card debt and slept on our couch for about three months but ultimately was able to land an amazing gig in SF and is now doing great. Wondering when I'm going to fold my hand a do the same type of thing.
  - Klathmon 8y ago
    I managed to "unlearn" that lesson over the last year. I used to love getting pushed outside my comfort zone, I'd take more risks than most, and I loved being "behind the 8 ball", I found I did my best work when there was no other option. But then over the last year I got complacent, i got comfortable. I started second guessing any changes, because "what if it's worse"? I started becoming more and more risk averse, and more unwilling to change. Recently I started changing that, and I'm making a conscious effort to push myself outside my comfort zone, because as you said, if I "woke up" 5 years from now and I'm still in the exact same position, i'd hate myself. Thanks for reminding me that I'm making the right choice.

qntty 8y ago

Can you expand on the third point?

toomanybeersies 8y ago
It's a bit tongue in cheek, I don't really recommend that everybody moves overseas. But for me, I was in a city that I didn't really like, and a job that I didn't really like. I wasn't going anywhere and I wasn't saving any money. Basically, my life was on hold. I had worked at my job for a year, and had saved a total of zero dollars, my boss was never going to give me a pay rise, and I was feeling like shit at work. I realised that if I stayed where I was, in a years time, I was going to be in exactly the same situation and there weren't a lot of other jobs in my city that would've put me in a better situation. So I decided that I'd quit my job and move to Australia, which for New Zealand citizens is as simple as getting on a plane and flying over (essentially it's visa free). I didn't have much in the way of savings, but I figured I had 3 months of runway if I used my credit card. I found a job within a month, and everything else has fallen in place quite nicely. The main takeaway is that sometimes you need to be able to realise when you're in a situation that you can change, and then do what you need to do to enact that change, even if that means moving way outside your comfort zone.
- grassclone 8y ago
  This is a really inspiring. It reminds me of a buddy who moved out here from the east coast to live here in the Bay with essentially nothing. He racked up a bunch of credit card debt and slept on our couch for about three months but ultimately was able to land an amazing gig in SF and is now doing great. Wondering when I'm going to fold my hand a do the same type of thing.
- Klathmon 8y ago
  I managed to "unlearn" that lesson over the last year. I used to love getting pushed outside my comfort zone, I'd take more risks than most, and I loved being "behind the 8 ball", I found I did my best work when there was no other option. But then over the last year I got complacent, i got comfortable. I started second guessing any changes, because "what if it's worse"? I started becoming more and more risk averse, and more unwilling to change. Recently I started changing that, and I'm making a conscious effort to push myself outside my comfort zone, because as you said, if I "woke up" 5 years from now and I'm still in the exact same position, i'd hate myself. Thanks for reminding me that I'm making the right choice.