Success can only be defined with respect to a particular goal. We all have different goals in life. Goals may change, so it's good to keep one's options open,

Success can only be defined with respect to a particular goal. We all have different goals in life. Goals may change, so it's good to keep one's options open, but to "instill" anything in a child is hard. With some teenagers the best thing to do might be to ban them from reading and studying and punish them whenever you catch them doing their homework. They might then do those things in secret just to spite you, and then they might at least have the option of going to university.