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I found it infuriating to read this article and realise there was no mention of Dad. Maybe his absence is an overlooked part of it? As a father, I do chores w
by mmjaa 8y ago
I found it infuriating to read this article and realise there was no mention of Dad.
Maybe his absence is an overlooked part of it?
As a father, I do chores with my kids, and the trope that only mothers and house-wives do chores is really tiresome.
Maybe there's another way to get kids involved in chores - make sure Dad doesn't get away with not being involved, too.
The family that cleans together (that means Dads too), live happily together.
- avip 8y agoThe parenting industry generally ignores the implied existence of "dads", because they (we) are a failed useless target group that buys nothing.
- Double_a_92 8y agoIf your wife is a house-wife (i.e. doesn't have any other job, while you have a fulltime job) why would she not just do all the chores that she can do?
- scotty79 8y agoBecause she does not want to. Then either you do it or if you too don't want to do it just leave it undone. Most chores are optional anyways.
- Double_a_92 8y agoIf you are a house-wife or -man doing chores related to your home and family is literally your job. How can you argument with "don't want to"?
- jessaustin 8y agoSome people mop the floors every day. Other people don't do that every day. Can we say whose decision is wrong?
- Double_a_92 8y agoThe higher standard of both partners should apply, and should be held-up by the partner that stays at home. If they don't match there's something wrong. E.g. if you want fresh warm food for dinner and your wife just always buys microwave food because she doens't like to cook, then you got the wrong wife (resp. she got the wrong husband). Or if your are a slob and mess up the house, and your wife nags you to clean up after yourself because she cares about having a clean home. Then she got the wrong husband and vice versa.
- scotty79 8y agoMy approach is, when you want something done, you have to be ready to do it yourself or stop wanting it. If you want home cooked meal and your wife doesn't cook for her own pleasure they you can ask her to do it for you, if she does, you must thank her, if she refuses, you must accept and respect her decision and either stop wanting home cooked meals or make them yourself. Of same approach should be applied by both spouses. As far as I know that's best recipe for happy, conflict-free life. Expecting someone to do something will lead to disappointment, miscommunication and general decline of relationship.
- jessaustin 8y agoThanks for this! As my own marriage approaches, it is disheartening to see things like GP post. What you have here makes much more sense to me.
- Double_a_92 8y agoBut then why do I need a wife? To be clear I was talking about 100% stay-at-home wifes. If she's also working 100% at some other job than it's another story. (Then the question is more why 2 people in a household have to work 100%...) Maybe there is some specific thing that she especially dislikes for some reason... Or maybe there is something that only you like, and takes a lot of effort to do... But in general the stay-at-home partner should care (and do sacrifices) for the family. Otherwise that's the point? To have one more mouth to feed at home?
- aethertap 8y agoThere are still choices to be made with finite time. Do you spend extra time helping your son understand his algebra and let the laundry accumulate for a day? Do you spend the time to cook from scratch or spend the extra money to buy prepared food? Economics applies everywhere, including the running of a household and use of time.
- scotty79 8y agoMy argument is that as an adult you decide what you want to do. Even if you are hired and you are working for someone when he tells you to do something you can decide you don't want to do it and don't do it. And that's when you have written agreement as what you should be doing at your job. There's no written marriage agreement that says what married woman should do when she has no job.