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> people seriously looking to have sex in college seem to be in the minority This is, reciprocally, a mind-blowingly alien worldview, completely contrary to an

> people seriously looking to have sex in college seem to be in the minority This is, reciprocally, a mind-blowingly alien worldview, completely contrary to an assumption I've only now realized was even an assumption, and had previously just taken as part of the fabric of the universe. I think it may be more plausible there's some difference in terminology here and we're not talking about the same thing. I would like to know more about what you would consider to be the mindset of a typical incoming 1st-year undergraduate, if you would share it.

sp332 16y ago
Well I asked around and I guess you're right. So I guess I'm going to learn more from this "alien" encounter than you are :-) Two different but related issues: me, and what I think (thought) of other people. I'm not very social, myself. I've occasionally wished I were more social, but it's generic loneliness. I've never personally been in a situation where I seriously-in-real-life tried to get or have sex. I've got my fair share of fantasies (small ones and big ones) and wishful thinking etc. It's just that I planned not to have sex in college. It's entirely down to how I was raised - I have religious (Protestant) reasons for believing sex is a bigger deal than most people think. But that's literally my only reason for not wanting to have sex. That said, I totally see where people are coming from with wanting to have sex! I saw and heard a lot of flirting in college. I guess I just assumed it was less common for all the social and personal issues to be resolved. Being unsocial, I guess I just wasn't paying attention. Time to go update my view of reality again. (I'm only 24, so I'm used to it :-)
- seddit 16y ago
  I hesitate to dig something like this up, because a lot of people taking this road take it very wrong. I am not a student, but what fragments I've critically accepted have proven very interesting and widely applicable. In general it has been unfortunately framed, and there are competing and incompatible strains of thought and attitudes within it. Tease out the right stuff: it was made for you. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_seddit_check_here_first/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_sedd... Read critically and act. Stay yourself and don't take it too far.
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sp332 16y ago

Well I asked around and I guess you're right. So I guess I'm going to learn more from this "alien" encounter than you are :-) Two different but related issues: me, and what I think (thought) of other people. I'm not very social, myself. I've occasionally wished I were more social, but it's generic loneliness. I've never personally been in a situation where I seriously-in-real-life tried to get or have sex. I've got my fair share of fantasies (small ones and big ones) and wishful thinking etc. It's just that I planned not to have sex in college. It's entirely down to how I was raised - I have religious (Protestant) reasons for believing sex is a bigger deal than most people think. But that's literally my only reason for not wanting to have sex. That said, I totally see where people are coming from with wanting to have sex! I saw and heard a lot of flirting in college. I guess I just assumed it was less common for all the social and personal issues to be resolved. Being unsocial, I guess I just wasn't paying attention. Time to go update my view of reality again. (I'm only 24, so I'm used to it :-)

seddit 16y ago
I hesitate to dig something like this up, because a lot of people taking this road take it very wrong. I am not a student, but what fragments I've critically accepted have proven very interesting and widely applicable. In general it has been unfortunately framed, and there are competing and incompatible strains of thought and attitudes within it. Tease out the right stuff: it was made for you. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_seddit_check_here_first/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_sedd... Read critically and act. Stay yourself and don't take it too far.
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