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> If you want your child who loves drawing to stop loving it, reward them. If you want them to stop learning, tie a reward to their learning. Is there a way to
by Bromskloss 8y ago
> If you want your child who loves drawing to stop loving it, reward them. If you want them to stop learning, tie a reward to their learning.
Is there a way to achieve the opposite?
> Being able to receive sustainable income for doing what you love doing, is a different formula though.
What is the difference?
- andrei_says_ 8y agoTo “achieve the opposite”: give up on your agenda for their relationship with drawing, or whatever interest of theirs you want to promote. Support it when requested, but give support only when requested. Think of your child as being driven by their enthusiasm and interest. They don’t control these forces and you do t either. Trying to force them kills them. Trying to direct them suffocates them. So, be there, celebrate what they celebrate, lend an year to their doubts, feel free to offer a bit of support but never insist on it. Watch it grow and maintain the soil; that’s all you can really do. Compliments are also rewards by the way ;) I highly recommend taking a look at the book, it’s in most libraries.
- clacke2 8y agoSo, don't buy hours or drawings, but do buy pencils, paper, brushes and canvases, and show an interest, but don't say OMG what a gorgeous drawing every single time.
- andrei_says_ 8y agoExactly. It’s their relationship, their art, their journey. Don’t try to become a main character in it. It’s OK to be a benefactor, but don’t try to amplify it or change its course.