So a good friend of mine who is a psychologist told me that: 1) You find your job fulfilling, inspirational unto itself, or... 2) Your job enables you to enjo

So a good friend of mine who is a psychologist told me that: 1) You find your job fulfilling, inspirational unto itself, or... 2) Your job enables you to enjoy other things. Ideally you want friends and a hobby (and ideally friends who share the same hobby) -- a hobby that happens to not be primarily software. If you don't know where to start, maybe look for a list of active meetups in the area.