"If only they knew me and my loved ones wanted to settle" The trick I guess is knowing when you are "the idiot across the table", and when you are the posts aut

"If only they knew me and my loved ones wanted to settle" The trick I guess is knowing when you are "the idiot across the table", and when you are the posts author. I.e. If the mantra is "always accept", then why did the "idiot across the table" have a chance to blow it? By the posts logic the author would have been willing to accept