Still, in your quote the emphasis was on the deed, not the person. "You are doing this wrong" <-- the deed "we're fucked" <-- feared consequence "You are fuc

Still, in your quote the emphasis was on the deed, not the person. "You are doing this wrong" <-- the deed "we're fucked" <-- feared consequence "You are fucking us up!" <-- your actions are harming the group. Not "you are a fuck" and no shunning from the group. I don't care for the tone, and all the dark patterns could be there too in the meeting, but your single quote on its own is not evidence of dysfunction.