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> "chin up, it's fixable!" Having been suicidal for a number of years myself and having overcome it, in my case it was fixable. People suggesting that unfortun
by castlecrasher2 8y ago
> "chin up, it's fixable!"
Having been suicidal for a number of years myself and having overcome it, in my case it was fixable. People suggesting that unfortunately may not be familiar with something as agonizing as a genetic disorder, and I'm sorry for what you're going through.
- DoreenMichele 8y agoI'm not looking for sympathy. I'm looking to put out useful information. Telling an internet stranger "it's fixable" when you don't know what the problem is tends to go very bad places. My initial assertion was that, no, most people don't really want to understand because then they might have to be kinder and that isn't usually on their agenda. Given the pile on of down votes and every reply to me being dismissive and argumentative, I stand by that assertion. Whatever interest I had in trying to do some kind of PSA here has basically died. I think I am done here. I have made my point, though, no, most people won't see that. They are too busy trying to come up with counterarguments proving they aren't somehow part of the problem.
- throwaway00006 8y agoThis resonates with me. It's very hard to win empathy from those who haven't struggled with suicide. And it's frustrating how many people will confidently offer you advice they've never needed themselves. Trying to rationalize suicide to someone will almost always lead to more self-alienation, so it's a conversation I avoid almost entirely. Thanks for being forward. Suicide is nothing to be ashamed of and I believe most of the other comments exemplify the problem. Your message is mostly lost here but I wanted to make a point that you aren't alone.
- DoreenMichele 8y agoI'm extremely tired today, so I am probably not making my points as eloquently as I would like. Although this is a new account, I've participated on HN nearly 9 years and some folks are well aware of that. I get recognized as also being that other handle by a surprising number of people. I have long addressed controversial issues like suicide. That isn't anything new. Today is my birthday. I am trying to tongue-in-cheek look upon the down votes as HN's birthday gift to me.;-)