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There is a way to do this without being toxic. If you are harming the other person, making them feel less so you feel more powerful, then it is a problem. I a
by chillwaves 8y ago
There is a way to do this without being toxic. If you are harming the other person, making them feel less so you feel more powerful, then it is a problem.
I am able to flirt with a woman without making them feel less so I don't know how to answer your question beyond that.
- dvtrn 8y agoWhile I can certainly appreciate the response there, it isn't quite what I'm asking: is there a difference between enjoying the art of playful flirting/courting and PUA? Not asking if it's merely possible to court/flirt without being toxic (because of course there is, absolutely, I agree). I pose the question the way I have because I have yet to be wholly convinced that PUA is inherently toxic, and we aren't allowing the manifestation of bad actors to paint a view of enjoying the transactional nature of flirting to the point of finding ways to make it more engaging than simply engaging in small-talk/banter/exchanging statements back and forth at each other about life, the universe and etcetera-and subsequently-wanting to find ways of improving how you go about courting relationships. tl;dr - "hate the player, not the game", etc.