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Yes, you're right. I don't understand the myopia on this forum when it comes to people spending money irrationally. Human beings are not hyper-efficient savings
by throwawaymath 8y ago
Yes, you're right. I don't understand the myopia on this forum when it comes to people spending money irrationally. Human beings are not hyper-efficient savings maximization engines. Every time the story about why "diamonds suck" hits the front page (maybe once a year or so?), the same rounds of patting-on-the-back are exchanged in the comments for rehashing a one-dimensional social commentary that buying diamonds is silly.
Yes of course it's silly! But that's not the point, and it never has been. Once you're at the point of buying a gift that costs far more than its intrinsic, utilitarian value, worrying about its "true scarcity" is just haggling on the details. I purchased an engagement ring for my wife that costed about $30,000. She didn't ask for anything remotely as extravagant as that, but she likes it and I enjoy it for frankly vain reasons. I take immense pleasure out of the reactions it elicits from other people. Despite being very clear-eyed about the artificial scarcity of diamonds and DeBeers marketing, I still bought it because I enjoyed being able to make a frivolous purchase. Personally I don't like spending a lot on things that aren't either experiential or somewhat long-lasting, so I'd never spend much at all on a wedding dress. But I don't begrudge people for spending money inefficiently if they can afford it.
We're all the same species. With very few exceptions, none of us is hyper-vigilant, hyper-rational or hyper-efficient. There are many, many things we idly buy which are artificially scarce or inflated in price. Buying them is not categorically different from buying expensive jewelry under a cultural zeitgeist perpetuated by a global conglomerate. I think most people really don't have much self-awareness about how high their floor of wealth and personal spending is over the ceiling of frugality and efficiency they talk about so much.
- theunixbeard 8y agoAre you an entrepreneur with a profitable business or successful exit? If not, 30K might represent 6-12 months of personal runway to build your own business.
- charlesdm 8y agoHe's not going to buy his wife a $30k engagement ring if he's earning $30k a year...
- theunixbeard 8y agoYou don’t save 100% of what you earn. 50% is considered very good, but in consumer focused America some people might save only 10% of their income (thus for a 100K income to save 30K represents 3 years of savings obliterated).
- throwawaymath 8y agoSuccessful exit.
- saiya-jin 8y agoTons of words trying to justify what you did. Your choice, your money, who cares. Making peer pressure of buying some worthless tiny rock, that's the core of the issue here for most including me. People who think they should, other people who look down on those who don't and similar, utterly pathetic behavior (which hints some deeper issues but that's another topic). Many people here try to be smart with money. Buying diamonds ain't remotely close to that
- a1369209993 8y ago> Human beings are not hyper-efficient savings maximization engines. Yes, but that doesn't mean we have to actively make the situation worse.