You are implying then that the point is to pay a lot of money and your future wife should be happy that you are paying a lot of money for a useless thing, just

You are implying then that the point is to pay a lot of money and your future wife should be happy that you are paying a lot of money for a useless thing, just to show you did it. This is a bad ground for a relationship IMHO. Because otherwise the physical qualities (how it looks) is the whole point.