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I mean sure, you could buy something just as nice on ebay for 2$. but I imagine, your potential wife won't go for that. When I proposed to my wife, she specif

I mean sure, you could buy something just as nice on ebay for 2$. but I imagine, your potential wife won't go for that. When I proposed to my wife, she specifically requested the diamond cost a minimum of X dollars. I was unprepared and I didn't negotiate. I would imagine most potential wives also have a minimum threshold. It's basically, your down payment on a marriage.

joering2 8y ago
And you didn't withdraw your marriage proposal when she requested that? Darn, good luck man and I truly mean that!
- dvfjsdhgfv 8y ago
  It's easy to say for us, but imagine a young man in love, dreaming about this wonderful future, with any things already arranged, and happy that the lady would accept his proposal. Maybe he planned to spend $1500 and he hears $2000. Breaking up at this point (frankly, you couldn't be together after withdrawing your proposal) might seem like petty ("Isn't your love fake then? Come on, it's just $500!") That said, I don't envy anyone being in such a situation. I see no easy way out.
  - joering2 8y ago
    So what you further saying, for $500 less, she wouldn't accept his proposition. Only $500 ? Good God!!
Luc 8y ago
Did she at least come with a dowry? I'm just continuously amazed this is happening in a modern, western society.
dvfjsdhgfv 8y ago
I'm very sad to hear that. If she started asking for that even before you got married, I'm afraid her expectations will grow. This leads to unnecessary stress and is a cause of many problems, at home and at work, also health problems. I very much doubt she can change her character later on, even though I hope she does. As others, I wish you good luck in your life.
thirdsun 8y ago
It's easy to judge as a rational, unaffected third party from a distance, but I truly believe a demand like that would make me reconsider my proposal.
SmellyGeekBoy 8y ago
> When I proposed to my wife, she specifically requested the diamond cost a minimum of X dollars. Now this is a red flag if I ever saw one...

joering2 8y ago

And you didn't withdraw your marriage proposal when she requested that? Darn, good luck man and I truly mean that!

dvfjsdhgfv 8y ago
It's easy to say for us, but imagine a young man in love, dreaming about this wonderful future, with any things already arranged, and happy that the lady would accept his proposal. Maybe he planned to spend $1500 and he hears $2000. Breaking up at this point (frankly, you couldn't be together after withdrawing your proposal) might seem like petty ("Isn't your love fake then? Come on, it's just $500!") That said, I don't envy anyone being in such a situation. I see no easy way out.
- joering2 8y ago
  So what you further saying, for $500 less, she wouldn't accept his proposition. Only $500 ? Good God!!

Luc 8y ago

Did she at least come with a dowry? I'm just continuously amazed this is happening in a modern, western society.

dvfjsdhgfv 8y ago

I'm very sad to hear that. If she started asking for that even before you got married, I'm afraid her expectations will grow. This leads to unnecessary stress and is a cause of many problems, at home and at work, also health problems. I very much doubt she can change her character later on, even though I hope she does. As others, I wish you good luck in your life.

thirdsun 8y ago

It's easy to judge as a rational, unaffected third party from a distance, but I truly believe a demand like that would make me reconsider my proposal.

SmellyGeekBoy 8y ago

> When I proposed to my wife, she specifically requested the diamond cost a minimum of X dollars. Now this is a red flag if I ever saw one...