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I just turned 30 and the self criticism has gotten stronger. Mostly, I think, because I feel like time's running out to get adult things done like buy a house,

• rukuu001 8y ago
  Thoughts that have buoyed me: - I'm not 'normal'. Expecting life to proceed 'normally' doesn't make sense for me. - Other people's expectations are none of my business (related to marriage, property ownership etc). - I may die before the end of this sentence, or in 60 years time; 'too late' is relative. (Phew, made it). I'm not making assumptions about them applying in your case, but wanted to share in case they're helpful.
• squiggleblaz 8y ago
  I turned 30 three years ago and I was barely a living being with no hope despite some success (in that I was holding down a decent job but my income was nowhere near enough to buy a house). Four years later - I'm about to get married and we're thinking of buying - or living overseas. My income has gone up. I have so many friends. There's no timeline. There's no time limit. My aunt got married for the first time and then she got retired. A friend of mum's got married for the first time five years ago. My life isn't yours and don't set a timeline by it. If you're stuck in a rut try and get creative, but most of the things you try - you'll still have to try something else afterwards. There's nothing wrong with having a few experiences, especially if you're bored of social media and video games. And so many people will envy you for it. "Success" in adult things is just when you're too busy to try new things - lots of people would love a bit of failure.