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I may have missed the prostration section. Who knows, maybe I coulda saved my first marriage if I'd read that section more closely?

• tabtab 8y ago
  That's just a specific case of "kissing up", which WFAIO more or less promotes. It encourages one to gain a "genuine interest" in the person you want influence over, but that's tricky to force. WFAIO lacks a "meta" side that helps one motivate oneself to do the difficult/tedious steps. It's kind of like a diet book that tells you to exercise more and eat more vegetables and whole grains. Good advice, but the motivation for that is the hard part, which it may not cover.
  • Nomentatus 8y ago
    Good analysis. (Meditation was my way to get more interested in others, and maybe more than that.) There is a difference between the WFAIO today and the original (which was more kissy-up) as I remember. In a way it's sorta a book about how narcissists can please other narcissists (without ever getting to maybe benefiting others rather than just pleasing them) - but I must admit that narcissistic-on-narcissistic is the case that is most likely to go wrong.
    • tabtab 8y ago
      I think most of us are narcissists, but just don't realize it. Evolution made us selfish and egotistical, and hid that fact from ourselves. Objectivity regarding self is probably not the optimum survival strategy.