This sounds like my story, but it took me much longer. However, I don't view myself as alpha or beta, merely someone with confidence who will assert myself if n

This sounds like my story, but it took me much longer. However, I don't view myself as alpha or beta, merely someone with confidence who will assert myself if necessary. I think I view the alpha term with derision due to pick-up artists elevating it to be the point of one's life. The emphasis on it reeks of someone needing social redemption of sorts; as if they've committed a heinous sin against society at large by not quite fitting the mold. I've seen a few people sacrifice parts of themselves at this altar; hell, I'm pretty sure I have, somewhere along the way. Power dynamics are all bullshit (which practically begs for satire), but not playing is a guaranteed loss. I just feel like it doesn't have to be like this, but it is. It disturbs me on an aesthetic level.