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I love my dad unconditionally. To this day. One thing he did still is so over the top imho. He had everything. I mean everything prepared. There was a folder a

I love my dad unconditionally. To this day. One thing he did still is so over the top imho. He had everything. I mean everything prepared. There was a folder at his work desk at home that had in it: * His Obituary already prepared - I just needed to fill in the date of his passing away. * All noted what I needed to tell the funeral parlor * All noted for the minister (down to every song he wished) * A personal note, that he loves me and will kiss me, when we meet again on the other side (right now even thinking about that makes my eyes water) * All necessary for the bank to transfer ownership/control of his funds * Some other stuff already organized I just needed to contact the relevant people and already had a playbook of what to do. I was able to get all done and had time to grief.

mercer 8y ago
That does sound a bit over the top, but from what I understand really helpful in the end. I don't think my father would go quite this far, but if he'd read your comment he would probably do likewise. FWIW I'm still at a point in life where death is just an occasional, fleeting thought, but now I'm thinking that going 'over the top' like your father might be worth doing. If I were to die unexpectedly I'd very much like my family to have access to all my files (I encrypt the shit out of everything), to know things I never told them, and to be able to grieve without having to worry too much about the 'practical' matters. Thanks a ton for your comment (assuming I interpreted it right)!
- sdoering 8y ago
  Well. About 3 years prior my dad had to organise his mothers burial while he was massively grieving. So remembering that he did not want me to go through the hassle while grieving. So he prepared. And as he always prepared over the top - he had a tendency to be more then perfect in such things. A little OCD. ;-) Even if he was so not OCD in nearly every other aspect. So yes - it was over the top. But it was so unbelievable helpful. [Edit]: > Thanks a ton for your comment (assuming I interpreted it > right)! Yes you did.

mercer 8y ago

That does sound a bit over the top, but from what I understand really helpful in the end. I don't think my father would go quite this far, but if he'd read your comment he would probably do likewise. FWIW I'm still at a point in life where death is just an occasional, fleeting thought, but now I'm thinking that going 'over the top' like your father might be worth doing. If I were to die unexpectedly I'd very much like my family to have access to all my files (I encrypt the shit out of everything), to know things I never told them, and to be able to grieve without having to worry too much about the 'practical' matters. Thanks a ton for your comment (assuming I interpreted it right)!

sdoering 8y ago
Well. About 3 years prior my dad had to organise his mothers burial while he was massively grieving. So remembering that he did not want me to go through the hassle while grieving. So he prepared. And as he always prepared over the top - he had a tendency to be more then perfect in such things. A little OCD. ;-) Even if he was so not OCD in nearly every other aspect. So yes - it was over the top. But it was so unbelievable helpful. [Edit]: > Thanks a ton for your comment (assuming I interpreted it > right)! Yes you did.