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I guess it reads as a little gross or awkward on the surface but those are all signs of people who are feeling lonely or powerless. When you’re really turned
by gppong 8y ago
I guess it reads as a little gross or awkward on the surface but those are all signs of people who are feeling lonely or powerless.
When you’re really turned off by a post (or posts), try flipping it the other way around and see if you can feel your honest concern. Don’t patronize the person and make a big deal of the post, but act constructively: reach out and say hi and share the things that you like about them.
And if you can’t feel moved to do that, that’s fine. You’re not obliged to do anything. But it just might make you leave less grossed out and it might do your friend some good.
- officemonkey 8y agoI think I would do this for my friends, even without Facebook. The problem is when I have to spend emotional labor tending to people I haven't seen since high school.
- overgard 8y agoIt's not that I'm not empathetic, but the kind of Real Speak you're sort of proposing feels out of place in a relatively public setting. I'd rather have a coffee or beer with them if I know them well, and if I don't, it's not like I call them on it, but it does slowly make me want to interact with facebook less. (I know I can unfollow people, but at a certain point it strikes me less about people misusing facebook, and more that facebook incentivizes these kind of behaviors)
- bscphil 8y ago> feels out of place in a relatively public setting. I'd rather have a coffee or beer with them if I know them well To follow up on gppong's comment, these are often people who don't know anyone well ("lonely or powerless"). So the fact that it's people you don't know well who post things like that is kind of obvious in hindsight.