First, find a good marriage counselor. Most therapists in the US are actually pretty bad at marriage counseling, focusing mainly on women and children who have

First, find a good marriage counselor. Most therapists in the US are actually pretty bad at marriage counseling, focusing mainly on women and children who have been victims of abuse or addiction. Because they're not used to having to make two parties both engaged in the process, when you and your wife go in, their prescription will be some form of "your wife is right about everything, and you need to be the one to make all the changes", which is ridiculous, because it doesn't get at the root cause of half the problems in the relationship. Your marriage is your largest asset, and your children deserve to have it as intact and resentment-free as possible. For your screaming kids to be bothering you this much, the marriage is probably a complicating factor (don't yell at him!). So start fixing the marriage first. If you absolutely loathe your job, devote an hour a day to replacing it. Therapy should help your wife understand that your health and well-being is more important than your career, so keep it on the down low until you have that portion addressed. It won't happen overnight. I have no doubt your job dissatisfaction is negatively impacting your marriage. Now you know it's there, you can take steps to fix it. As soon as you start, you'll have things to look forward to, and you'll stop feeling trapped.