Are you currently contracting or working full time for your current employer? It's not clear. If the former, I don't know what the specifics are of your contrac

Are you currently contracting or working full time for your current employer? It's not clear. If the former, I don't know what the specifics are of your contract. If the latter, it's up to you to determine whether there is a manager you can discuss your dissatisfaction with ("absolutely despise" is pretty strong). If you can't speak to anyone there to try to improve things, you're going to have to sit down with your wife and discuss the money / fulfillment / personal sanity / job security dynamics and how it's going to affect your family unit. And I do mean "the unit" - this is affecting everyone in your household. If you're decent at your craft, a single short-term line item on your resumé shouldn't all that harmful to your career - make sure your wife understands that. Convey to her that you need at least an hour or so of peace when you get home to decompress and strategize for routines to make this possible. Remember to acknowledge and show gratitude for her sacrifice in helping you through all this. If you don't have more optimism and a plan in place within a week or two, get thee to a therapist. Do it for your kids.