> The wife thinks I should be here at least 1 year, or else it'll look bad on my resume. If the job sucks, just leave. Resume aside, the mental and physical h

> The wife thinks I should be here at least 1 year, or else it'll look bad on my resume. If the job sucks, just leave. Resume aside, the mental and physical health effects from a sucky job is not worth it. If your wife doesn't want to listen to you, find someone that will. Tech friends, psychologist, pastor, etc. And if you're feeling overpowered, just take one thing small that's annoying in your life and change it. Enjoy the fact that you took control of it for a moment. Then move to something a little larger and fix that. Do that enough times, and then being assertive will be a natural reaction to adverse life stimuli.