Just to point out: by the definition of a lot of Americans, "travel a lot" is part of the definition of "rich". And it's a big part: most people can't really a

Just to point out: by the definition of a lot of Americans, "travel a lot" is part of the definition of "rich". And it's a big part: most people can't really afford to travel at all. And for some people, "4 kids" is also part of that definition--especially if you treat them right. If you send them to private school, that's certainly the case. (Personal anecdote which is not data: a lot of my family are autoworkers, and if you asked them they'd say they're doing pretty good, definitely middle class. One of my aunts on that side just got on an airplane for the first time in her life last year, because it was the first time she could afford the price of the ticket.) This post is not meant to be snarky or insulting at all. But you are in the top few percent of the income distribution, and you don't feel rich because the things you spend the money on are things you think you should have. And you might be right! Because I think a life which involves family and travel would be a good thing, and that everyone should have that. But that doesn't mean most people can have it, or that those who can afford these things aren't rich.