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> Some amount of dishonesty is required if you want to avoid being an awkward social pariah. Not at all. When people ask "did you like the food?" they want to
by eeZah7Ux 8y ago
> Some amount of dishonesty is required if you want to avoid being an awkward social pariah.
Not at all. When people ask "did you like the food?" they want to receive honest feedback, including a perfectly acceptable "actually not that much", at least where I live.
You can teach people that you will refuse to manipulate them and lie to them - and that this is a way to respect their dignity.
It's also unpolite to ask direct, potentially embarrassing questions that put people on the spot. There is nothing wrong in asking people not to do that.
People can find your (polite) honesty refreshing and warm.
- learc83 8y ago> at least where I live That is completely cultural. Many culture have different expectations. >People can find your (polite) honesty refreshing and warm. In many cultures, including large parts of the US, politeness is often valued more than honesty--polite lies in such cases are a required a social convention. In any culture there will be consequences to ignoring social convention. Perhaps you are willing to accept those consequences. Some people have the social capital to flaunt convention, and some people choose to live with the stigma, but there is a stigma. For example, if you were to answer "actually not that much" at my grandmother's house, you'd at a very minimum get a sideways glance from most people at the table.