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I appreciate the last part of your comment as a stepdad (we call it being an Immediate Dad) going on 2 years now. I remember the first time they spoke to me ne
by Denzel 8y ago
I appreciate the last part of your comment as a stepdad (we call it being an Immediate Dad) going on 2 years now.
I remember the first time they spoke to me negatively about their father... deep inside I wanted to agree or comment on it, but I knew that wouldn't be the best thing for them. So I said nothing. And I've continued to say nothing. I like your approach better though; so don't mind if I adopt it. :)
- linsomniac 8y agoEarly on in my stepdadhood, my partner and I called me "Bonus Dad", a phrase we'd heard and liked as an alternative to the phrase that fairy tales have prefixed with "wicked". One day I was mentioning this "Bonus Dad" and "wicked step parent" thing to the kids after school teacher, and she said "I don't know what you mean, my step dad was awesome!" That comment really warmed my heart. Fast forward a couple years now and the kids just call me "dad". It probably helps that their other dad is now a girl, so I'm not really taking anyone's place? Don't know.
- opless 8y agoI've just owned the 'evil step parent' moniker, it's taken all the power out of the negative perspective, and I can be more authoritative when I need to be and when when you get called names... it reminds them how totally not evil you are. :)