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Where to begin.. First, I'm debating not because I lack perception of the possible ways OP's content may be interpreted, but because I am questioning the reaso

Where to begin.. First, I'm debating not because I lack perception of the possible ways OP's content may be interpreted, but because I am questioning the reasons of the ways it may be interpreted. There's a nuance that is not so hard to grasp. > most women would not agree to such a relationship. And you think that because you believe people treat all people the same? Meaning just because it is your experience that women would not agree to such a relationship means that they do not agree with such a relationship period? Did it occur to you that they may not be "agreeing" to such a relationship with you, i.e: that you are a variable that must be controlled in an experiment. Did it also occur to you that they may not be agreeing to such a relationship because you're the kind of person who thinks they may not? Did you think that such a thing may only be something you believe to be true, have you tried to prove yourself wrong and actually be in that kind of relationship? And if you did and failed to be in such relationships, is it enough to generalize and say that it's the women who do not agree to these relationships (and taking yourself out of the equation) or does it have something to do with you? Let me drive the point home: your whole argument is saying that you should separate your "private" persona from your "professional" persona. Which means you do not behave the same with your buddies as you do with your coworkers/employer.. Which means there are whole swaths of your personality that are unknown from your colleagues. Does the fact that some aspects of your personality are unknown to your colleagues mean that these aspect do not exist or do they just not exist in the same space and time as your colleagues? Does women willingness to be in such relationship not exist at all just because it does not exist within your time and space? Isn't this what someone who's good at "human stuff" should be aware of, or is it enough to have one's biases in check? Do you think the barely veiled condescension and snark in your penultimate sentence helps people expose their true self to you knowing they might be so negatively judged, do you not think it reinforces your beliefs about what "most" people would and would not agree to?

chrisbennet 8y ago
While arguing with people with people (who are attempting to help you) coupled with displays of intellectual stotting when you feel threatened, may seem like a good way to get a job offer, ask yourself: “How is that working out for me so far?”
- Jugurtha 8y ago
  > While arguing with people with people (who are attempting to help you) coupled with displays of intellectual stotting when you feel threatened Precious. > may seem like a good way to get a job offer, ask yourself: “How is that working out for me so far?” I'm under the impression you think I'm OP (original poster). I'm not and I don't know why you'd assume I am or looking for a job.

chrisbennet 8y ago

While arguing with people with people (who are attempting to help you) coupled with displays of intellectual stotting when you feel threatened, may seem like a good way to get a job offer, ask yourself: “How is that working out for me so far?”

Jugurtha 8y ago
> While arguing with people with people (who are attempting to help you) coupled with displays of intellectual stotting when you feel threatened Precious. > may seem like a good way to get a job offer, ask yourself: “How is that working out for me so far?” I'm under the impression you think I'm OP (original poster). I'm not and I don't know why you'd assume I am or looking for a job.