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It depends on the context. If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax someone into sex then that is objectionable. Then, there is the context t

It depends on the context. If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax someone into sex then that is objectionable. Then, there is the context that "Philippines/Thailand" bring sex tourism in some peoples' minds. That said, they explained themselves that they aren't exploiting people and most people are just being uncharitable in their reading. I'm just saying it's understandable. With the metacrap done, I'll say it's weird, especially when there is this odd stigma specifically around white men dating asian women[0]. If anything, thinking it's usually "exploitative" furthers racial stereotypes that asians[0] are somehow more naive and childish than white people. [0] The idea of an Asian woman itself is a little ridiculous because Asia is a continent, but that's a digression.

dingaling 9y ago
> If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax ... But that's exactly how it works in a bar in Detroit, or Edinburgh or wherever with people of the same 'group', just with a less explicit wealth signal. Here's a thought experiment; start chatting to a [man|woman] in a bar. When the subject turns to drinks, ask if they'd buy because you're on unemployment benefit and don't have much cash. Expected result? Now try the experiment again but buy the drinks and make sure to set your Porsche keyfob in sight when reaching for your wallet. Unless you are very, very charismatic and symmetrically attractive I expect two differential outcomes.
- noobermin 9y ago
  I think you are making something like a soft-continuum fallacy. What I'm talking about is picking up girls in destitute poverty situations, in which they'd either starve and live in economic insecurity or date you. That is objectionable. It's different than being wealthy and dating someone who is economically secure but perhaps not as wealthy as you. Personally, I think trying to buff your sexual appeal using your wealth is kind of silly, but I understand it happens and I don't judge (in a moral way) people in the latter case I pointed out in the last paragraph.

dingaling 9y ago

> If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax ... But that's exactly how it works in a bar in Detroit, or Edinburgh or wherever with people of the same 'group', just with a less explicit wealth signal. Here's a thought experiment; start chatting to a [man|woman] in a bar. When the subject turns to drinks, ask if they'd buy because you're on unemployment benefit and don't have much cash. Expected result? Now try the experiment again but buy the drinks and make sure to set your Porsche keyfob in sight when reaching for your wallet. Unless you are very, very charismatic and symmetrically attractive I expect two differential outcomes.

noobermin 9y ago
I think you are making something like a soft-continuum fallacy. What I'm talking about is picking up girls in destitute poverty situations, in which they'd either starve and live in economic insecurity or date you. That is objectionable. It's different than being wealthy and dating someone who is economically secure but perhaps not as wealthy as you. Personally, I think trying to buff your sexual appeal using your wealth is kind of silly, but I understand it happens and I don't judge (in a moral way) people in the latter case I pointed out in the last paragraph.