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It’s funny how women always consider it exploitative when men “pick up” an Asian woman. I met my wife in a Walmart in China and we are quite happy together. My

It’s funny how women always consider it exploitative when men “pick up” an Asian woman. I met my wife in a Walmart in China and we are quite happy together. My friend is married to a Philippine woman. She worked at Apple and is quite well educated. Even is she wasn’t - I don’t know what the problem is.

noobermin 8y ago
It depends on the context. If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax someone into sex then that is objectionable. Then, there is the context that "Philippines/Thailand" bring sex tourism in some peoples' minds. That said, they explained themselves that they aren't exploiting people and most people are just being uncharitable in their reading. I'm just saying it's understandable. With the metacrap done, I'll say it's weird, especially when there is this odd stigma specifically around white men dating asian women[0]. If anything, thinking it's usually "exploitative" furthers racial stereotypes that asians[0] are somehow more naive and childish than white people. [0] The idea of an Asian woman itself is a little ridiculous because Asia is a continent, but that's a digression.
- dingaling 8y ago
  > If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax ... But that's exactly how it works in a bar in Detroit, or Edinburgh or wherever with people of the same 'group', just with a less explicit wealth signal. Here's a thought experiment; start chatting to a [man|woman] in a bar. When the subject turns to drinks, ask if they'd buy because you're on unemployment benefit and don't have much cash. Expected result? Now try the experiment again but buy the drinks and make sure to set your Porsche keyfob in sight when reaching for your wallet. Unless you are very, very charismatic and symmetrically attractive I expect two differential outcomes.
  - noobermin 8y ago
    I think you are making something like a soft-continuum fallacy. What I'm talking about is picking up girls in destitute poverty situations, in which they'd either starve and live in economic insecurity or date you. That is objectionable. It's different than being wealthy and dating someone who is economically secure but perhaps not as wealthy as you. Personally, I think trying to buff your sexual appeal using your wealth is kind of silly, but I understand it happens and I don't judge (in a moral way) people in the latter case I pointed out in the last paragraph.

noobermin 8y ago

It depends on the context. If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax someone into sex then that is objectionable. Then, there is the context that "Philippines/Thailand" bring sex tourism in some peoples' minds. That said, they explained themselves that they aren't exploiting people and most people are just being uncharitable in their reading. I'm just saying it's understandable. With the metacrap done, I'll say it's weird, especially when there is this odd stigma specifically around white men dating asian women[0]. If anything, thinking it's usually "exploitative" furthers racial stereotypes that asians[0] are somehow more naive and childish than white people. [0] The idea of an Asian woman itself is a little ridiculous because Asia is a continent, but that's a digression.

dingaling 8y ago
> If someone is using their money and status as a way to coax ... But that's exactly how it works in a bar in Detroit, or Edinburgh or wherever with people of the same 'group', just with a less explicit wealth signal. Here's a thought experiment; start chatting to a [man|woman] in a bar. When the subject turns to drinks, ask if they'd buy because you're on unemployment benefit and don't have much cash. Expected result? Now try the experiment again but buy the drinks and make sure to set your Porsche keyfob in sight when reaching for your wallet. Unless you are very, very charismatic and symmetrically attractive I expect two differential outcomes.
- noobermin 8y ago
  I think you are making something like a soft-continuum fallacy. What I'm talking about is picking up girls in destitute poverty situations, in which they'd either starve and live in economic insecurity or date you. That is objectionable. It's different than being wealthy and dating someone who is economically secure but perhaps not as wealthy as you. Personally, I think trying to buff your sexual appeal using your wealth is kind of silly, but I understand it happens and I don't judge (in a moral way) people in the latter case I pointed out in the last paragraph.