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Doing the hard work of personal development, including getting dating coaching, is where it’s at, for people whom are serious to make necessary changes to be th
by himom 8y ago
Doing the hard work of personal development, including getting dating coaching, is where it’s at, for people whom are serious to make necessary changes to be their best self.
I have:
- the world’s worst anxiety (constant hyper vigilance, tension, shakes and near panic attack 24/7) rn induced by antidep medication and I can’t drink
- pseudoParkinsonian essential tremor so my hands are shaking like an 80yo... I can’t write and can barely type
- myoclonus - random, brief, involuntary movements of major muscle groups
- mild Asperger’s so I’m the life of the party (lol)
- ADD-I so everyone thinks I’m weird but roll with it bc there’s no other choice
- stutter in the most awkward way possible (silent block - gasping for air instead of starting to speak)
- broke af
Even with all that and more BS, I still number close, full close and get pulled by females. If I can hookup same night with hot girl(s), anyone can. No excuses allowed. It’s a matter of commitment to seek feedback and invest the effort to improve one’s outlook and habits... lack the knowledge or the practice, and someone won’t know what types of red flags to look for or how to keep someone else interested.
- Madmallard 8y agoThat's probably because looks matter more than anything else to modern women and you're most likely decent looking or pulling women that are not very attractive.
- empath75 8y ago‘Modern women’ is not a monolithic group and I think you’ll find that there are women who are attracted to lots of aspects of men. The kind of men who tend to think women only care about looks only go after women that are conventionally ‘hot’ and guess what, if a woman spends a lot of time taking care of her looks, she’s going to look for men who do the same. If you want women who don’t care about how a man looks, look for women who look like they don’t care about their own looks. It’s not about lowering standards, it’s about finding someone who shares your priorities in life.
- Madmallard 8y agoInstincts hold much greater weight in attraction than personal hygiene preferences, regardless of what the person says.
- guskel 8y agoDid you use dating coaching? Any particular program or coach that led to a breakthrough? What venues are you finding these successes and at what age did you make the transition?
- abecedarius 8y agoNot to comment on the rest, but to perhaps ameliorate your tremor and myoclonus have you tried supplements of essential fatty acids (omega 3)?