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> Add a second pregnancy at 1-3 years after the fist and it's easy to end up with a stay at home mom. It's 2018, you have the power to control when you (or you
by craftyguy 9y ago
> Add a second pregnancy at 1-3 years after the fist and it's easy to end up with a stay at home mom.
It's 2018, you have the power to control when you (or your female SO) get pregnant (you have had this for quite a while, actually). There's no logical reason to "oops, now I'm a stay at home <whatever>".
- toasterlovin 9y agoI'm not OP, so I can't read their mind, but I don't think they meant that the second baby happens on accident. Instead, what they're saying is that if you want to have kids and not have them spaced out too much, it ends up making a lot of sense for the woman to become a stay at home mom in situations where the family can afford it.
- craftyguy 9y agoI see, yea that could make sense in many situations.
- Moru 9y agoWhen giving birth at the hospital the nurses was all saying "See you in 1-3 years!". It's nothing uncommon indeed. After that ordeal our thought was more like "In your dreams!". No, it wasn't one of the fast, uncomplicated births, it was more like suddenly getting overrun by doctors and other white robes, whisked away into operation and then a very broken back for six months.
- toasterlovin 9y agoNot sure where you’re at now, but a common experience is that the memories of how difficult childbirth and newborns are start to recede and then you’re ready to have another go.
- sundvor 9y agoThis. The brain is exceptionally good at repressing bad memories. The effects of lack of sleep on memory / brain function might play a big part of it. (Just speculating from personal experience, I have no formal knowledge).
- Moru 8y agoYes, it took us about five years to get to that point.
- Fnoord 9y agoSure, but there is also the biological clock ticking of the female. Add to that if she wants multiple children, that adds up even further.