Exactly this. It‘s so hard that it took PostgreSQL almost two decades to finally implement that feature and they had to support a lot of internal features first

Exactly this. It‘s so hard that it took PostgreSQL almost two decades to finally implement that feature and they had to support a lot of internal features first, like speculative insertion. If you want to do UPSERT 100% correctly and ACID, the list of edge cases just grows and grows. Here‘s a great article describing these problems in detail if you‘re interested: https://www.depesz.com/2012/06/10/why-is-upsert-so-complicated/ https://www.depesz.com/2012/06/10/why-is-upsert-so-complicat...