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4. If you hold the conversation in private, you’re almost guaranteed to avoid everything below the lower dotted line. Everything below that is a show put on for
by zimablue 8y ago
4. If you hold the conversation in private, you’re almost guaranteed to avoid everything below the lower dotted line. Everything below that is a show put on for spectators.
This is definitely not true. I think most people have social shaming arguments (another way of putting this is tribalism) so drilled into them that they believe it at a very core level and will socially shame you (in a less aggressive way) when speaking in private because it's core to how they think.
"I hate how you're always agreeing/on the side of X"
- rwallace 8y agoThis is unfortunately the case, but an audience still tends to exacerbate the problem. In other words, OP is correct if we change 'almost guaranteed' to something like 'considerably more likely'.
- Matticus_Rex 8y agoI don't usually put myself in a position to have private conversations with that type of person, and I suspect Scott doesn't either, but you're very correct to point this out.
- KirinDave 8y agoAnd if you hold the conversation in private, the more powerful status quo will always have more resources to quash the discussion if they don't come off so well. Which is also, I think, a big plus to lots of SSC readers.