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I have always been seeing this as a solid need especially in Japan. I know several people in japan who recently divorced that experience loneliness, they would

I have always been seeing this as a solid need especially in Japan. I know several people in japan who recently divorced that experience loneliness, they would host dinners and meet-ups like every week or so. Plus young people are dating less and less here, Plus Plus there are a lot of socially awkward people who will have a hard time trying to build a family.

irtefa 8y ago
"Plus young people are dating less and less here" - I keep seeing this a lot. Why are people dating less and less?
- rangibaby 8y ago
  The short answer is money. <50 people now work the same amount as their parents generation for much less money and benefits. People are more interested in spending the money and time they have on hanging out with their friends or their hobbies than dating. Basically all of Japan’s “problems” boil down to society cutting inputs then acting shocked that the output has dropped, then choosing to blame the younger generations instead of helping them. Cf. avocado toast in the west
  - fiblye 8y ago
    When it comes to life in Tokyo in particular, people really do not have time for anything outside of work and a small slice of time on weekends (if you even get that--overtime is even more crushing if you're a man since you're born to work). When you factor in the overtime and 45-90 minute commutes each way, that really doesn't leave any time to do anything else. In smaller cities, the commute isn't nearly as bad as Tokyo so that provides a little more breathing room, and that's why I chose to live away from Tokyo despite fewer job options and being in a fairly "boring" town. And when it comes to money, it's primarily based on age and nothing else. A 59 year old thumb twiddler counting down the days until he can retire and chug some beers from morning to night will easily be getting paid more than double a 28 year old engineer whose work is the backbone of the company.
- oceanman888 8y ago
  I am biased cause I went to engineering school where people typically dates even less. What people are saying is that both for boy and girls it feels a lot to commit if you decide to start a relationship right now. Way cozier just to hang out with your friends instead. I personally think it have something to do with the culture that rewards people play safe and not attack.
- captain_perl 8y ago
  Largely because career women can afford their own condo and trip to Hawaii now. After they get married, typically women lose their job and end up as a bitter homemaker waiting around for their drunk husband to arrive on the last train.

irtefa 8y ago

"Plus young people are dating less and less here" - I keep seeing this a lot. Why are people dating less and less?

rangibaby 8y ago
The short answer is money. <50 people now work the same amount as their parents generation for much less money and benefits. People are more interested in spending the money and time they have on hanging out with their friends or their hobbies than dating. Basically all of Japan’s “problems” boil down to society cutting inputs then acting shocked that the output has dropped, then choosing to blame the younger generations instead of helping them. Cf. avocado toast in the west
- fiblye 8y ago
  When it comes to life in Tokyo in particular, people really do not have time for anything outside of work and a small slice of time on weekends (if you even get that--overtime is even more crushing if you're a man since you're born to work). When you factor in the overtime and 45-90 minute commutes each way, that really doesn't leave any time to do anything else. In smaller cities, the commute isn't nearly as bad as Tokyo so that provides a little more breathing room, and that's why I chose to live away from Tokyo despite fewer job options and being in a fairly "boring" town. And when it comes to money, it's primarily based on age and nothing else. A 59 year old thumb twiddler counting down the days until he can retire and chug some beers from morning to night will easily be getting paid more than double a 28 year old engineer whose work is the backbone of the company.
oceanman888 8y ago
I am biased cause I went to engineering school where people typically dates even less. What people are saying is that both for boy and girls it feels a lot to commit if you decide to start a relationship right now. Way cozier just to hang out with your friends instead. I personally think it have something to do with the culture that rewards people play safe and not attack.
captain_perl 8y ago
Largely because career women can afford their own condo and trip to Hawaii now. After they get married, typically women lose their job and end up as a bitter homemaker waiting around for their drunk husband to arrive on the last train.