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It's the ignorance of reality mostly. Whenever my girlfriend gets a guy approaching/messaging her both of us default to an immediate suspicion of romantic inten
by furi 8y ago
It's the ignorance of reality mostly. Whenever my girlfriend gets a guy approaching/messaging her both of us default to an immediate suspicion of romantic intent. It doesn't require them treating her in a dehumanizing way or harassing her (although those certainly happen and quickly remove all doubt about his motives), they just have to turn up and the suspicion starts. That suspicion alone (especially in an environment with third parties who are watching and talking) can be quite damaging, no hysteria about false accusations of harassment required.
- mikeash 8y agoIt sure doesn’t match the reality I live in. I see guys with really bad social skills struggling with this, but that can be overcome.
- furi 8y agoWell perhaps it's regional to some degree, I can't say, but I certainly know other people who think this way and it's what I'm scared of when approaching women. I'm not scared of harassment accusations (that seems like it's been blown out of all proportion). I just don't want to be perceived as sexually interested in them and I know that if the tables were turned I would immediately assume exactly that.