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Yeah, this is what bugs me with the advice to "Go befriend a girl". How about they come and befriend me? Like with dating, there's the expectation that the men
by Jach 9y ago
Yeah, this is what bugs me with the advice to "Go befriend a girl". How about they come and befriend me? Like with dating, there's the expectation that the men need to make the first move. (Whatever, it's not necessarily a bad expectation, but when it's implicit like this I'm not always sure it was intentional...)
Of course in the friend case I think it's more of a function of your local environment than anything else. At the same company I've experienced a large difference in the local atmosphere between the Seattle and Vancouver offices, the Vancouver office was quite a bit more welcoming and more people would randomly introduce themselves.
- TACIXAT 9y agoIt's hard as hell to befriend anyone. I probably have superficial conversations with 100 people before I find someone I connect with on a friendship level. I don't know if it is because people in this industry (myself included) mostly talk about work or the technical problems we're interested in. In my experience though, it's so rare that people open up personally to each other. I don't have any meaningful commentary on the gender stuff, just been thinking about making friends a lot recently.