Awkwardly, StreamBright and ninkendo are both right. My best advice about threading the needle is to concentrate on processes rather than goals. Don't worry a

Awkwardly, StreamBright and ninkendo are both right. My best advice about threading the needle is to concentrate on processes rather than goals. Don't worry about befriending anyone; but recognise that you have a little leeway to make small-talk to any human before it becomes odd. Use it (with everyone) for practice at getting funnier and more charming. Have fun practicing, let results take care of themselves. Something similar goes for becoming less "unattractive". Don't worry about your body shape, but learn to enjoy exercise (perhaps you do this already). Or with fashion and personal grooming, figure out what you like and so develop your personal style as you bathe and dress each day.