> Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. okay, the disconnect here may be that i live in europe, and you live in ...i'd guess north america? > I

> Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. okay, the disconnect here may be that i live in europe, and you live in ...i'd guess north america? > It doesn't help that I have no interest in getting married or having children. In fact, the idea of either sickens me. So as everybody else is pairing off to get married or spending 99% of their free time taking care of kids, I'm stuck by myself. I just wish I had more single (and preferably asexual) friends to hang with. suburbs are indeed optimised for numerous things you're not up for; this is a difficult problem to solve. > If not having a vibrant social life is the price I pay for living in a place that doesn't make me want to kill myself, then I'll go ahead and pay that price. things can eat away at you quietly. not having a vibrant social life may not confrontationally make you want to kill yourself, the way the other serious issues you've mentioned do, but it can erode moral and have cascading negative effects on your mental health. we aren't all built the same though, so ymmv.